In-Laws Demand Couple Change Wedding Date After Booking Vacation

Choosing a wedding venue and date—especially these days—can feel like the most challenging parts of planning your nuptials. Competition amongst couples aside, and as if finding that perfect place and at your preferred time isn’t challenging enough, there’s other factors to consider, like whether or not your VIPs will be able to attend on your selected date. That’s the issue one couple on Reddit ran into when piecing together their own nuptials. After multiple attempts to finalize a date, they finally found an option that worked for their busy schedules and careers. The only issue? It didn’t work for the groom’s parents, who had a prescheduled vacation that would preclude them from attending. 

The bride-to-be took to Reddit’s “AITA” forum to document the situation after her future in-laws made a surprising request: Instead of canceling their trip to be with their son on the wedding day, they asked the couple to postpone their nuptials into the following year. “I (23F) got engaged to my (25M) partner in November. Due to him being in the navy; our dates have changed four times since planning our wedding,” the woman explained. “We have finally been able to settle on a date in the spring. However his parents are unable to make it because they are using up their vacation earlier in the year. They asked us to push it to 2026.” 

The woman was surprised by their question, considering the nature of their son’s role—and they’d already booked a few vendors, which would have made any changes difficult. “Due to his career, next year will be very up in the air. We explained we already put down the money for an officiant and have gone back and forth on dates,” she says. The bride-to-be also explained that her fiancé’s parents would be the only RSVP nos. “I’m frustrated because they are the only two that would be unable to come,” she said. “I understand they are his family—however they live across the country and have not visited him the past five years he’s been out here. Am I the a****** for not wanting to change the date to accommodate them?”

Redditors were quick to voice their support for the couple. “They can reschedule their vacation plans, but instead they’re asking you to push your wedding back a whole year? And they haven’t visited him in five years? They aren’t treating him like he’s of any importance to them,” one user wrote. “If they can’t make it to your wedding as scheduled, that’s on them, and they should be very embarrassed, but they don’t sound like they have the self-awareness. I have in-laws like that. You will never be able to bend over far enough backwards to accommodate them. There always will be something more important to them. Carry on as planned!”