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A key part of the wedding-planning process is selecting your vendors. In the months leading up to your big day, you’ll book your entertainment, florist, and, of course, your photographer. That last vendor is arguably one of the most important: Even after the celebration has come and gone, in the years following your nuptials, you’ll be able to look back with your spouse and relive the moments before and after you said “I do”—all thanks to this big-day team member. Unfortunately, one pair of newlyweds won’t be granted such an opportunity. After serving as the couple’s wedding photographer, the groom’s mother lost the SD card containing all of their pictures—and refuses to apologize or take accountability for it.
Key Takeaways
- In a Reddit post, a woman detailed how she asked her mother-in-law to be her and her husband’s wedding photographer, a role that the woman happily accepted.
- On the day of their nuptials, midway through the celebration, the groom’s mother seemed to hand the responsibility over to her other son.
- In the weeks following the wedding, the couple had yet to receive the promised photos from either person.
- They later learned that the SD card containing all of the photos was missing.
- The groom’s mother and his brother both refused to apologize for the mishap—and accused the couple of overreacting.
In a post on Reddit’s “JUSTNOMIL” subreddit, the bride detailed the devastating mistake. “So my husband and I got married in October. We decided on a small wedding with just our close families, at a park,” she wrote. “Since it was a small thing, our families really wanted to be involved in the wedding, and since his mom used to be a photographer, we asked her to take our wedding photos.” To make the process easier for her mother-in-law, the bride offered up the use of her own camera, which the woman refused. She also created a Pinterest board of all of the different photos she wanted. “Everything was fine, and the wedding went amazing, until it was time to take the pictures,” the original poster detailed. “Apparently she bought this camera specifically for the wedding photos, which was fine with me because she said she had it handled, and I trusted her with her experience. Well, she never saved the Pinterest board I sent her, and she was expecting me to remember all the photos that I wanted her to do, and she didn’t get [many] photos anyway.” Eventually, the groom’s mother stopped taking photos, and her son started snapping them instead.
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When the celebration concluded, the couple asked her for the SD card to be able to edit the photos. However, the groom’s brother offered to edit them himself, which the couple appreciated. Yet weeks later, the newlyweds still haven’t received the pictures. Eventually, they asked him to send them the photos to be able to make their wedding announcement. He then made a strange comment, saying that he’d “die if we lost the photos,” and subsequently stopped responding to their messages. “We start contacting his mom, and she’s saying how we are ‘overreacting’ about being upset that our photos could be lost,” the OP wrote. “She says she can’t find them, and says ‘they’re not lost, just misplaced,’ and we’re like woah what happened? I thought they were being edited? Then she says she has no idea where the SD card is, and how ‘we can’t expect her to find it because it’s so tiny’ as if it wasn’t her responsibility?” The Redditor added that they quickly learned that the groom’s brother had never had the SD card and lied about editing the photos. “They both never apologized once to us, or even tried to make it better or make a solution,” the bride wrote. “The only things we got were that we were overreacting, being mean, and they lied because my husband is a ‘hothead.’”
While the bride noted that they do have a few phone photos taken by other guests at the nuptials, they’re missing a large portion of pictures they’d hoped to have–many documenting special moments. “We wanted a wedding instead of eloping for the photos,” the Redditor said. “And it almost feels like she did it on purpose because how could you do that?” The OP added that when they first found out about the missing pictures and arrived at the groom’s mother’s house to confront her, she laughed and made a comment about how the bride’s mother didn’t take any photos. “I just can’t believe they won’t take any accountability or even apologize,” the user wrote. “It’s so sad, we lost our photos, and his family. I just don’t know how to move on from this.”
Other users on the internet were just as appalled as she was. “They lied to you about something really important that’s unforgivable,” a Redditor commented. “ When things are unforgivable, you don’t forgive them. You move on, but you don’t forget; I would never be able to look at them the same; they’re lousy people.” Some even theorized that the mishap wasn’t actually a mistake. “It sounds like this was 100% planned in advance,” one person wrote. “Gaslighting you about your wedding photos not being important and blaming your mom for something she wasn’t even asked to do??”