Brother-in-Law Refuses to Change Christmas Vacation Plans for Groom

After you’ve said “I do,” celebrated your new status as newlyweds with all of your loved ones, and danced the night away at your after-party, there’s one more wedding tradition you and your spouse may be partaking in: heading out on your honeymoon. Whether you dream of a tropical getaway or a cozy staycation, having quality time together after tying the knot is a time-honored ritual. Since you’ve likely spent the last few weeks surrounded by your family and friends in your planning and preparation, this trip is often a time for some much-needed alone time. However, one groom took that a bit too far when planning his post-wedding vacation, ordering his brother-in-law to move his family’s own Christmas travel plans in order not to overlap with his and his partner’s honeymoon. 

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A______” subreddit, the user detailed his brother-in-law’s bizarre request. “My wife and I (TN residents) are flying down to Miami for [my] brother-in-law’s wedding 2 days before Christmas,” he wrote. “We are only there [for] a short time to celebrate and then come back home for our relaxed family trip to Gatlinburg that we have had planned for over a year.” The original poster added that he and his family booked a cabin in the Gatlinburg area for the Christmas holiday. However, while his brother-in-law initially planned on taking a cruise with his new spouse following his wedding, he suddenly announced that he was changing his honeymoon spot to Gatlinburg—and asked the OP to shift his plans as a result. 

“He texts me asking my wife and I to move our Christmas plans either later on or to not show up at all so he can focus on his honeymoon,” the user wrote. “Mind you we had no intention [of] crashing his honeymoon or making a point to see them while there. This trip is about my 1.5 yr old daughter.” The Redditor added that as a small business owner, it’s difficult for him to move his vacation dates. Ultimately, the user refused to shift his dates to accommodate his brother-in-law’s new plans. “I told him that we will not be changing [the] time or location of our trip,” he wrote. “We are going out of our way (dealing with Nashville and Miami airport on Christmas Eve) to attend his wedding, and now they want us [to] give up our Christmas plans too?,” he added. “My wife is what I would call a hard-headed, strong individual, so I’m assuming this is why he texted me instead. Now the vibe at his wedding will be off, and I’m confused [as] to why drama had to be started.”

The internet was just as confused as the user himself. Many of his fellow Redditors called out the brother-in-law for his selfish request. “I’m sick of people becoming these entitled monsters where their wedding/honeymoon are concerned,” one wrote. “I’m giving the guy the benefit of the doubt here, not assuming this is how he acts all the time, but asking you to delay starting your holiday traditions with your family for the sake of his honeymoon is absolutely egregious.” Others questioned why the brother-in-law didn’t just opt to take a trip somewhere else. “Your future BIL is not entitled to tell you when and where you can take a vacation,” a person said. “If he does not want to take the chance to see you, he should have gone elsewhere for his honeymoon.”