Bride Disinvites Her Future Mother-in-Law From Wedding Over Dress

After you’ve decided on your wedding date, hired your planner, and booked your venue, you may embark on another crucial to-do: dress shopping. And while this task can be a memorable and enjoyable experience with some of your closest loved ones, it can also be stressful, as you try to find the perfect ensemble for your big day. Depending on your personal style and the aesthetic of your celebration, you may opt to forgo the classic white dress, landing on a red, pink, or a black gown (or suit!) instead. Yet even if you decide not to don the traditional white hue, that doesn’t mean that your guests are suddenly permitted to wear the neutral shade. However, that didn’t seem to stop one bride’s future mother-in-law from selecting a white dress for the occasion; as a result, she was disinvited from the nuptials. 

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A______” subreddit, the bride posted about her decision to strike her future mother-in-law from the guest list. “Background, fiancé is a country boy, through and through,” the original poster wrote. “Fisherman, hunter, country music every day, etc. and I’m the opposite. I listen to rock/metal music, 99 percent of my wardrobe is black, I like the weirder/darker side of things, and sort of just a goth kid that never grew out of it.” For her upcoming nuptials, the bride decided to lean into her aesthetic preferences, opting for black flowers, as well as a black dress—a choice that upset her future mother-in-law. “His mom called me yesterday, after finding out that I said ‘YES’ to a black wedding dress, and said I’m not taking this seriously,” the Redditor wrote. “She said that just because I ‘like’ black, doesn’t mean I should be getting married in it too. She said I’m turning this whole wedding into a funeral, and that it’s not going to look pretty and that I won’t look pretty in a black dress.” The groom’s mother also proceeded to complain about the flowers, the menu, and the fact that she wasn’t asked to be in the wedding party. 

The bride’s fiancé told her to just ignore his mother’s comments. However, a recent decision made by her future mother-in-law made that impossible for the OP. “Today was the last straw, when he showed me the dress she ordered online. It was pretty much a…white dress,” she wrote. “It was like a cream/off-white, but it was WHITE.” The Redditor added that even though she isn’t planning on wearing white to walk down the aisle, that doesn’t mean that it’s acceptable for guests to don the standard off-limits color. Following this disclosure, the bride called her fiancé’s mother and informed her that if that was the ensemble she planned to wear, she would no longer be invited to the nuptials. “She now has been blowing me up and leaving me voicemails and him voicemails and now his sister is all upset with me now,” she wrote. “Did I overreact?”

Even though the Redditor may be rethinking her reaction to her future mother-in-law’s outfit choice, the majority of internet users supported her decision. “I can understand where she is coming from because she has had a sweet vision in her mind about what this day was going to be,” one person wrote. “But she needs to get a grip. This is your wedding and her son‘s wedding, not hers.” Others highlighted the need for the bride’s fiancé to intervene in the situation. “Your fiancé needs to step in and put [his] mom and sister in their place, and if [she] doesn’t like it she can step down and not come,” a commenter said. “This is your and your fiancé’s wedding. Not theirs.”